The story has been with me for over twenty years. The intention I had for it at the start was to share the complexities of depression. Except I had not known that’s what it was at the time.
Ever since I was a child of about 12 years old, I suffered with uncontrollable feelings of deep sadness, self-loathing and dejection. I didn’t understand these feelings and therefore could not understand how to relieve myself of them. Always the writer, I started to write a story about a young woman who “had issues” just like me. I didn’t know what kind of issues she would have; all I knew was that she would be in some kind of emotional turmoil that was rooted so deep that she would have to climb her way out of it by undergoing a profound transformation.
I discovered that Mia, my main character had depression after understanding that I myself was suffering with depression. In an effort to remain authentic, I used my experience as the source for what my character needed to go through. In trying to relieve my own emotional pain, I sought therapy, and for my novel, I took notes on how I felt in therapy and about the process. Knowing that I needed more than just my own experience for my story, I conducted a lot of online research about what depression is, its many symptoms, what kinds of treatments are out there, and how the treatments work.
Needless to say, I incorporated much of what I learned and experienced about depression into all aspects of Mia’s actions and thoughts within the novel. But, being someone who suffers with depression myself, there were many years where I lacked the energy and motivation to even pick up the novel to continue the work. Then I switched careers in 2008 and put my novel on the shelf, where it collected dust for years. In the midst of all those years, I toggled back and forth between thoughts of self-publishing the book and getting it traditionally published.
Never forgetting about my work, I finally picked the book up again about 6 years ago in a moment of inspiration. I fell in love with it. With renewed enthusiasm, I proceeded to fully revise it and had it professionally edited. Then I revised it again and started sending query letters out to potential literary agents who would then sell it to publishers. Absolutely no takers. I was crushed! I at least expected some rejections. But nothing! Crickets! So I took a few online courses and listened to a number of different podcasts about the craft of writing and the business of self-publishing, all while revising it again and again. With each revision, I felt the story grow even more powerful. I found another editor to work on my 10th or 15th revision (by that point, I had lost count!). I revised the manuscript yet again and then made the final decision to self-publish. And here we are.
This story has been with me approximately 23 years. I refused to let it go because I felt the message was significant. But to think about waiting another year or two to get an agent, and then another year or two to get a publisher, and then still another year or two for it to actually be available in stores was simply too many years for me. It had already been long enough! The story needs to get out there. And by no means am I rushing the process. I feel like I did right by this story with all of my revisions as a result of everything that I learned and experienced. It is time for me to allow Mia, my main character, tell her story. I think it’s a story that people will relate to, find entertaining, and feel uplifted by. I am quite proud to call this work my own.
When I started this novel, people weren’t talking about depression. Mental health became a worldwide discussion due to the pandemic. But it’s still something that many people don’t fully understand, or perhaps simply misunderstand. My novel is by no means going to educate everyone about the complexities of depression. It is, after all, about only one woman’s healing journey. But what it can do is provide the platform to continue the conversation about it. And I think that’s what is most important. I want to be among the people who help to normalize discussions about mental health in order to remove the stigma that a lack of understanding has created. I spent so many hours constructing this novel into something that people will find value in and I am so very proud of having created the story in the first place. We live in a time where we can make our own decisions about what gets printed; we no longer have to rely on the gatekeepers. I decided to self-publish because I wanted to maintain creative control and because it’s within my power to do so. I’ve decided to self-publish because I think it’s a story that needs to be shared now. I’ve decided to self-publish because someone out there in the world needs this story like I did over 20 years ago.
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